Klonda's Sex Tips Spanking Reviving a Marriage

A male friend asked if I had any spanking tips that might help interest his wife in sex. I found myself thinking and writing about it, so I'm gonna share-- cause you do so much wonderful writing for me. No its not well written, just a ramble on my thoughts about the value of Spanking in Reviving a Marriage

To My Friend,
The power dynamics of your marriage evidently are not comfortable. Or are they just perfect? If she doesnt want you sexually, that lets you off the hook, doesnt it? did you find some way to turn her off to you sexually? Do you not like to please her sexually? Did you feel like her servant? So you got out of it?

I think most women are pleasable. Very pleasable. I myself could please them. what you do is you stroke their bodies until they settle down, you dance with them, you joke, you sing, you sooth them, cause women live very anxious lives, always perfecting. you create a world where they can relax and enjoy themselves. You even let them adore you, if need be.. (I feel some squirming..) They like men, they are healed by the male's lower vibration. They need men physically.

They need to let go. So thats where spanking or something BDSMy can be useful..Thats why so many women read harlequin romances. Or dream of being overpowered. They want to surrender, to feel just like a child. Only they wouldnt call it that. I would stroke them all over.. and then pay attention to the breast needs cause that is the heart area. the mouth that is oral. the hands.. so much feeling there. and the pussy, make it beg. Lightest touching along the slit.. fluffing the hairs.. make it swell and glisten before you touch the actual slit.. play around, but play smoothly and continuously, technique is critical here. And women are different, but each likes it smoothly slowly.. slowly.. continuously done. In fact the technique of touch is very critical, the moves of the hands, and the feeling you put in them.

If you are going to have boy girl intercourse, then make her swell completely make her beg for it, tease her with it, make her suck it in. They want it sooo bad. Once in let her take over.. let her ride you.. let her lead. And try not to stop her, give her the reins.. after she has orgasmed, if you still have not, turn her over and do it dog style.. unless she wants to come again, at least with me I love dog style after I have already come, its filling, but restful, I dont have to do anything but enjoy his thrusts.

For many men, sex is about their orgasm. The woman doesnt connect with their orgasm! Male orgasm and female orgasm do not come together, sorry.. but male and female sexuality comes together beautifully. Its a miracle. We complement each other so well. So to make love to a man, well thats totally different. I like to be domme, I like to strip him.. suck him.. play..a long time. Now some guys go all the way with that, what an explosion. And others get uncomfortable, they need to reassert themselves and fuck me. Well this is assuming its someone I love in the first place, as you know I have only fucked two men since I left my husband. But I have orgasm'd many men in the past two years. By hand or mouth. Or very likely I lead them to the point of explosion, and they use their hand for the final five seconds. I had several spurters.. 4 or 5 feet.. and one guy I swear he'd produce a half a cup of cum. The male is a sensitive and powerful beast. Their bodies are very magical. One guy orgasmed from spanking me, that was certainly a surprise.

See the spanking opens up the chakras too, so that can be useful for the male. And since males are so into being on top, being in control, it can add an extra edge to their sex play for them to be submissive. The art of sexual spanking is to spank for about 20 minutes.. warming up and then moving into more and more pain.. for however long it takes, and this will vary.. for the endorphins to kick in, and now they have a big sexual rush coupled with a blissy feeling.

Why do men enjoy spanking women? Men may question about just how dom they really are with their women, and to enact that.. to have their women submit and present their bottoms and to actually hit and cause pain.. well thats pretty cool. Not much question about who is on top, and that the women love it.. very reassuring.. and sexy for both. they are giving their women a gift.. opening up all that energy, releasing tension.. allowing crying if need be, washing away tension between them, bonding bonding bonding.. its very bonding.

This is what a married couple's sex life could be. (Ignoring the fact that many couples have a wonderful vanilla sex life.) But what happens for many couples is their power exchanges DO get involved with their sex life eventually, but destructively, and whoops up goes that stone wall that they break through when they get desperately horny. I know, I have been there.

So, to take that wall down, you may need to get radical. You certainly need to focus on your partner. Ask her to do something to you, take charge of you in a way she never dared.. risk something. Yes, dress up in women's lingerie. Or let her spank you or give you an enema or tie you up or pee on you or something exciting for her. Let her get excited about her power in this exchange. You are doing it to re-connect. You probably know her secret kinks.. somehow. Yes, that one!

Well then, open the door and just keep going. Don't even think that you will ever return to the land of wham bam, thank you ma'am.. because thats not what she wants. These dynamics, these plays can recharge us psychicly, spiritually, sexually. Doesnt a man whose wife loves to make love to him have a very different feeling about himself than one whose wife doesnt? Yes! Sex is energy. Sex is power. Sex is fun. You can do it!

So sayeth Klonda

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Klonda's Sex Tips Spanking Reviving a Marriage